Wild Hogs and Living the Adventure

Adventur“Women are often attracted to the wilder side of a man, but once having caught him they settle down to the task of domesticating him. Ironically, if he gives in he’ll resent her for it, and she in turn will wonder where the passion has gone. Most marriages wind up there. A weary and lonely woman asked me the other day, “How do I get my husband to come alive?” “Invite him to be dangerous,” I said. “You mean, I should let him get the motorcycle, right?” “Yep.” She shrank back, disappointment on her face. “I know you’re right, but I hate the idea. I’ve made him tame for years.” Wild at HeartJohn Eldredge

Every Man Needs an Adventure to Live, a Battle to fight and a Beauty to rescue – John Eldredge

I don’t include the above quotes because my wife made me tame.  I did! — I lived out of duty and responsibility – because that’s what I thought good godly men did.  I have come to realize that I need adventure to make my heart come fully alive and live as the man God has called me to be.  The adventures that I enjoyed as a young man have been calling me back.  Things like hunting, fishing hiking have all begun to make my heart come alive.

I recently went wild hog hunting with a knife.  Not a gun but a knife!  A good friend of mine and I went to Chappy’s Outfitters in Moore Haven Florida for an adventure that I will be telling my grandchildren about.  We got four wild hogs that day, two each.  The third hog was in a dense Florida thicket which was so dense I could not see through.  I could hear six dogs barking and the hog grunting and squealing.  My friend could see through the thicket and what was going on.  He said “quick find a tree to hide behind he may be coming our way”.  My adrenalin and heart were pumping but thank God my pants stayed dry.  The adventure of that day made be feel alive.

Is this enough?  If the only way I can live the adventure is chasing wild hogs – me and the hogs are in trouble.  I could live the rest of my days and never chase a hog and be ok.  The adventure that I could not live without is the journey that I walk with people each day into the thicket of their lives.  Entering into lies the enemy has planted helping them understand who they are in Christ. Hearing the pain of how the enemy has tried to distort truth and love and leading them to freedom that can be found in the unconditional love of Christ.  My role in the Kingdom is to help people find a new path, a new place, to live in wholeness.  This is the adventure that I would get up early and stay up late for.

To find our role in the Kingdom and live it fully alive as his beloved children – this is the adventure that I think God wants for us.  We have to be willing to risk and be inconvenienced.  You can’t play it safe.  The adventures that I have come to enjoy in the woods again have opened my heart to more.  I want to live fully alive.  I want to live a life that makes people ask questions about a God that is fully alive and present in my life.

How about you….are you longing for more or just playing it safe?

Mark Carpenter
TJM Leadership Team

Five Ways to Celebrate the Women in Your Life


May is the month we celebrate Mother’s Day.  I am convinced that each of you have a mother or a woman that you love dearly in your life.  As men we become too busy and have trouble speaking “woman”.  The focus of this list is, doing something.  Don’t just go out for dinner, buy a card.  Spend some time and effort to express your affection and appreciation.  Here are some easy practical suggestions to help you celebrate the women in your life.

  • A thank you letter – Don’t just buy a card.  Write a letter that expresses what she means to you and all the ways that she has impacted your life.
  • Create a Playlist or CD – Music is the language of the soul.  If you have a hard time expressing things with words find the music that does.
  • Breakfast In Bed – This can be great especially if you have kids.  Create an experience she will enjoy.  Do it without complaining or grumbling.  If this is out of your comfort zone – stretch yourself and try.  This has always been an event that I have enjoyed with my family.  Check this site out for some Ideas.
  • Give Mom the Day Off – You can get creative with this idea.  Take care of the errands, chores, meals, pets and kids.  I can assure you if you do this well, she will appreciate it and you will grow to appreciate her more when you see all she does.  Take this idea the extra mile and take her to a spa day while you cover all these areas.
  • Spend Time With Her – Gifts are great but experiences and time together bring more lasting satisfaction.  Time is the real language of love.  Spend time with your mother or wife in activities that she enjoys and she will remember and cherish the time.

A Couple Extra Ideas

  • Coupons for services or things they need.  This website has a funny and practical list of coupons you can even print out.
  • Plant flowers she loves – I have done this several times.  She loves it.  The flowers are there to enjoy all summer.
  • Serve Organizations that Serve Women – There are so different organizations that need you.  You are needed!  The strength and energy that you could bring to impact a family or organization are priceless.  This is a great idea if the women of your life are long distant.  Go serve and send a letter to your loved one telling them of how you served in honor of them.

Okay guys, I wanted to make it simple, practical and easy.  Give me your ideas.  What have you done to serve the women you love?  Give some ideas.

Mark Carpenter
TJM Leadership Team