We Need To Share Some Things With You


Friends and Brothers we need to share some things with you.  As many of you know we have been in the midst of loss.  We have been walking with Jason Carter and his family through the grief and loss of their beloved daughter Katie Beth in a car accident Monday, Sept. 5, 2016.  As we have all tried to deal with this tragedy we have come to the decision that we need to cancel the fall Freedom Weekend scheduled for October 6-8, 2016.  Our next weekend is scheduled for April 27-29, 2017.  Let me share how we got to this decision.

“Death is such an assault on the soul. Having someone you love, someone you have shared so much life with, suddenly yanked from your life is a violent and disorienting experience. Death is so hostile, so explosive to God’s design for us, the soul experiences it as trauma. This wasn’t meant to be. I think that was part of the tears we see in Jesus’ eyes, as he stands at his friend Lazarus’ tomb – This wasn’t meant to be. Our souls were never meant to go through this, so we reel like a ship in high seas. I’m grateful for Jesus’ tears. Even though he knows he is about to raise his friend from the dead, there are tears. That provides space for our hearts to express our tears, too.” – John Eldredge

We have some core values that guide how God uses this ministry – Every Man Needs

  • A Battle To Fight
  • An Adventure To Live
  • A Beauty To Rescue
  • Every Man Needs To – “Watch over your heart with all diligence, For from it flow the springs of life” – Proverbs 4:23

The foundation of each of these is developed and lived out only in community.  A band of brothers living life together.  We have always wanted it to be evident that our weekends grow from the ground of the four of us doing life together, carrying each other’s burdens, being there for one another.  It is deep in the desires of our hearts that we: “Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty.” – Proverbs 3:3-4 MSG.  We have a brother down and we are convinced that we need to stay with him.  It would betray who we are to go on without him.  But the idea of letting men down is very painful.  We exist as a ministry to fight for the hearts of men.  Our hope, our prayer, is that you and all the men who are watching us will come to understand that this is really us trying to move forward in integrity fighting for the heart and family of our brother.  We have to focus on being real, and being who we say we are and living the way we encourage others to live.

Again, we covet your prayers for the Carter family as they grapple with the loss of Katie Beth.  We also covet your prayers for our ministry.  We recognize that we currently see through a glass darkly, but with all our hearts we are trying to do what we feel God would have us do.

With Faith, Hope and Love in a Father that will make all things new.  

Wally, Jason, Tim and Mark

Who’s Got Your Back?

I saw the video below and thought about men and our tendency to fly solo, to do this thing we call life all by ourselves.  Sure, we “hang out” with other men and maybe even go to church and participate in a small group, but are we truly living in community?  Are we doing life with a group of men that is bringing freedom and life?  This takes developing relationships to the point where we can be vulnerable and know it’s safe.  You’ve got to be walking with guys that you know have your back and will fight the battles with you, that will go to hell and back for you.  Some would say, “I’ve got God and that’s all I need.”  Though I’m confident God can handle it, what I know is that living in community is His idea.  Not just a neat idea, but His plan for each of us.  Even Jesus, the Son of God, chose to live life with a band of brothers.   I encourage you to watch the video and ask yourself if you have this in your life.  If so, that’s awesome, continue to nurture it.  If not, I challenge you to begin asking God to bring men into your life who are desiring the same thing.  Stick with it…it will transform your life!

Jason Carter
TJM Leadership Team